I am not selling a product, but a life changing idea.
One might ask why I wear these around my neck, in particular the anvil charm? It is true if I was younger and out and about, I would wear it on a charm bracelet, but in this time of life, I choose to wear it alongside my necklace medallion. My husband got me the gold medallion which on the other side has a Mourning Dove which symbolizes my bond with my mother who passed away in the 90’s. The words on the back, seen here in the picture, say: “With faith, there is no fear.”
The anvil represents “a victim/survivor of abuse” of any form: physical/emotional child abuse, sexual abuse, domestic violence, rape/sexual assault, and any abuse you survived that you need/ want a reminder that you overcame your victimization, to become not just a survivor, but a victor.
Mine represents childhood sexual abuse, not of parenting, but of perpetrators. The details are not for this particular post, but has been documented in writings of the past. I am promoting the wearing of a “charm” which survivors can wear to open up a conversation about abuse with others who might ask or be introduced to the concept. Or, they may just want it as a tangible reminder that they are “overcomers. Mine is from England, ordered online, and has hearts. The “box” opens and inside are two hearts. These represent to me, myself, and the one who helped me recover and become a survivor: my husband who got me the medallion and helped me conceive of the anvil as a emblem for victim/survivors.
The idea happened when I wrote Greyhound Lady Walking. The lead character goes to meet his bride-to-be’s father before their wedding. His idea is to try to initiate a reconciliation between them, if it is possible. He knows it will be a daunting task given what she has told about him. It turned out, he was worse than expected.
When my husband learned of this story line he pointed out it would be Biblical to “cast the abuser into the depths of the ocean with an anvil around his neck”. He liked the idea of modern day men having to wear a visible anvil around their necks if they were abusers much like women of old who had to wear the scarlet letter A for adultery. I believe he’s pouting because I “stole his idea” and gave it to the survivors as symbols of remembrance/victory, but he agrees, it is “good for those, who, like me, get a positive reinforcement from being reminded “I won over the perpetrators.”
As a survivor/victim or if you know someone who would benefit, consider going online to find your very own: (I found mine here)
If you want the entire background story, it can be found here: