Time grows short for any grandparent to spend quality time with their grandchildren, It is even shorter if it is meant to be quality time to give them advice. Or as many grandparents would suggest, “sound advice, and telling it like it is so they don’t repeat the mistakes of the generations which led them to their adult years.”

In other words, the time when we must let go, have our last “say”  .

So here goes mine; SHORT AND SWEET.

Family Admonitions From Grandma Lady

  • God, family, country.
  • Each generation is to better the family’s lives and reputation. You will leave a legacy, good, bad, or ugly. But it is left in the wake of  your very existence whether you plan it or not. You just can’t say “no I won’t”. It happens like it or not, so suck it up buttercup.
  • Education, be it university or trade, leads to independence. Every piece of knowledge, every certificate, diploma, or learned craft, skill, or volunteer experience, makes you a more desirable, prepared, person when an opportunity presents itself.
  • Honesty and work ethic are superseded only by character.
  • Family, close or far, is family. Love even when you cannot like. Stand up for them until they stand against you.
  • Genetics matter,love matters, think before you commit. Your decisions are the “bricks” upon which your child’s body, mind and character are built. What you create, you care for, love, support and never abandon. Tough love can be a “buzz word” for giving up. Be tougher than that. God never gives up on us, can we do any less?
  • Being judgmental is only an excuse not to help or care. Being judgmental is an act of ego and closing the door to compassion, empathy and trust.
  • Animals are  extensions of our soul, so be kind, caring, and proactive to those around you.
  • Music, art, dance, and writing are the gifts we leave to “pay it forward” to the world around us.


Grandsons of Author Joyce Godwin Grubbs

Grandsons of Author Joyce Godwin Grubbs

Granddaughters of Author Joyce Godwin Grubbs

Granddaughters Four Author Joyce Godwin Grubbs

Grubbs Grandchildren collage 2014

Grandchildren and two by relationship to grandsons.

Author pic with books orange

Very proud Grandma Lady. First and foremost, “family”. While writing my novels, they were never far from my mind due to the “life lessons” of some of the stories. I sought to make them “a part” of my passion in the series, drawing from their names, their character, their interests, and their requests to be included in some way. They wanted to make that connection with me. I am blessed to have 11 grandchildren to be proud of, and hope the “admonitions” are something they will always connect to my love for them, and my desire that their lives be filled with joy, faith, and trust.


About joycegodwingrubbs2

Some call me retired: I am RE-FIRED. I have written 15 books, plus 3 written as a "ghost writer". I no longer offer the novels as printed books, having them only available as Kindle Ebooks since my retirement as a novelist. Twelve books are on Kindle eBooks: collectively they are known as The Greyhound Lady Walking suspense series.They are real cases fictionalized into suspense stories to protect identities..( no victim/survivor names were compromised, and workers and locations were protected.) I also co-authored a non-fiction book: Footsteps Out of Darkness: The Annabelle Kindig Story . It is available on Amazon under the name of Annabelle Kindig. I have traveled, written from the heart, and found an audience that appreciates my "platform". The catalyst to writing the novels was the realization that if I died, I would take all my amazing experiences in these real cases with me; and believe me few have lived 5 lives in one. It would "silence the voices" of the victim/survivors whose triumphs are written into these novels. The suspense series was written in part with the collaboration of police woman and sex crime expert Trula Ann Godwin. In addition to the novels, I have written as a ghost writer for a World War II veteran who fought in the South Pacific aboard the USS Maryland in all the major battles. I have also written a non-fiction book recording oral history stories of my family members beginning with the 1930's to present. There are sixty-six "legacy" stories with pictures. It was recently published as a private printing for family and close associates only. I am a published photo journalist having won the 2009 Editor's Choice Award for internet freelance news articles and pictures of the Cedar Rapid's Iowa flood victim accounts and their personal struggles.. My husband and I are in our 52nd year together (only one blip on the marital radar together), and we have adopted three greyhounds; Dex, Big Buddy and Baby Doll. These were the inspirations in the Greyhound Lady Walking suspense series We have eleven grandchildren, 7 grandsons and 4 granddaughters. My three children live in Iowa, Wisconsin and Ohio.
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  1. Dottie Melko says:

    This touches my heart in ways known only to Grandmas, Nanas, and/or whatever your grands call you!!! I’m to a precious 15 year old special child with autism. tho he is high performing, there are still limitations for him in life. I love my others as well but in a much different way but just as much. Each is special in their own way but every day is difficult for this special child. God bless you & hands together for all of our grands!!!

    • Dottie, throughout our extended family there are children with autism and other special needs. Isn’t it funny that when you read the admonitions, they can apply in some way to all of our grandchildren without respect to their challenges. As we grandmothers know, “we never have a weak link, just one that needs some extra welding go make it stronger.” Thanks for leaving a comment.

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