THEY SAW A MAN: A tribute to the enduring “Jim Kent” of my life.






In The Spring of His Life



  • They saw a tall, good looking, 21 year old college student.

I saw a great looking, strong, protector, and highly desirable man.


  • They saw a Catholic boy with no apparent church interest or involvement

I saw a man who to accept me, had to deny the pain of religious hostility in his past .


  • They saw a student with no visible financial means.

I saw a man with potential and determination not to be a beggar or a slacker.


They saw a man who lacked social finesse’.

I saw a man who carried himself in such a way, he charmed all he met.


  • They saw a man who came from a home where there was dysfunction.

I saw a man who refused to be a part of dysfunction, and was striving to move beyond it.


  • They saw a man who smoked and drank beer.

I saw a man who sought his stress relief in familiar habits.


  • They saw a small town boy with athletic dreams left behind.

I saw an adaptable man who translated athletic loves, into love of athletics.


  • They saw a strong man who could move great things in big ways.

I saw a man who suffered greatly from the efforts and achievements he made.


Herman brings home Trula Dee

Bringing home his first born child, his precious daughter, Trula Dee Ann, was a game changer for him. Whatever happened in all the future years of his life, his priority would be his children.



   In the Summer of His Life

Herm with Grubbies

Standing is Justin Grubbs, then left to right is Erica Grubbs, Olivia Grubbs and Jared Grubbs. Grandpa Grubbs was babysitting for Steve and Kelli and decided buying the kids water guns and having a water fight was a good, healthy, childhood, experience, Okie style.

  • They saw a man exercising his parental controls too strong.

I saw a man protecting and guiding his family to think for themselves, and find God.


  • They saw a man who did not bend or yield to their opinions or positions,

I saw a man who had a mind of his own, and felt beholding to no one.


  • They saw a man who seemed stern and stubborn.

I saw a man with a flickering light in his eyes when he was mischievous, and who was steadfast.


  • They saw a man who spent hours in preparation for his job and his presentations.

I saw a man who desperately wanted to do his best at all times, and be his best at all times..


  • They saw a man who would not cut corners or stretch a point.

I saw a man who remained true to himself, no matter the loss or the consequences.
Herman sports collage


They Saw a Man in the Autumn of His Life

Herm and Joyce on their cruise

  • They saw a man running, racing, and withdrawing.

I saw a man bedeviled by the reality that life hadn’t been as he expected.


  • They saw a man of intolerance and independence.

I saw a man who learned patience, acceptance, and to face being alone, if need be.


  • They saw a man who changed his priorities and refused to justify it.

I saw a man clinging to his dignity, and his privacy, and asking for support.


  • They saw a man who never cared to “go along” because it was the accepted thing.

I saw a man who decided to make others accept him for who he was, and how he was.


  • They saw a man who was a “hard nut to crack”.

I saw a man who had softened beyond all expectation and yielded to the Potter.



They Saw a Man in the Winter of His Life

herman and tomatoe

  • They saw a no nonsense, opinionated man, who cut no slack for incompetence.

I saw a man consumed by a passion to see hard work and perseverance rewarded.


  • They saw a man who expressed love for his grandchildren yet missed many life events.

I saw a man who tried to balance his physical pain and desires, to have it all with his family.


  • They saw a man who could seem to them, bitter and resentful at retirement.

I saw a man who knew the finality of a lifestyle, and believed  it was somehow entangled in his worth.


  • They saw a man they loved and yet could not penetrate in their perceived fashion.

I saw a man who could not put down the barriers, for fear of cracking himself.


adam wedding kids selfie

We all saw the same man,

We all loved the same man,

And we all failed the same man.

But, fortunately for all of us,

He saw us as well.

And the one thing we saw, he saw.


It was an honor to write this several years ago as I contemplated the blessing of aging with the one you love. There is a particular blessing in being able to reminisce from your teen years to your seventies with the same person and them understand your frame of reference and have shared many of the relationships you did. In this day of disposable lifestyles, there is something lost in not being able to share the fabric of your life together. Thank you for allowing me to share this remarkable man with you. He is my heart.



Love may change, grow, flicker, surge, shine, hide, weaken, overwhelm, take charge, give hope, lead us forward, but LOVE REMAINS.


About joycegodwingrubbs2

Some call me retired: I am RE-FIRED. I have written 15 books, plus 3 written as a "ghost writer". I no longer offer the novels as printed books, having them only available as Kindle Ebooks since my retirement as a novelist. Twelve books are on Kindle eBooks: collectively they are known as The Greyhound Lady Walking suspense series.They are real cases fictionalized into suspense stories to protect identities..( no victim/survivor names were compromised, and workers and locations were protected.) I also co-authored a non-fiction book: Footsteps Out of Darkness: The Annabelle Kindig Story . It is available on Amazon under the name of Annabelle Kindig. I have traveled, written from the heart, and found an audience that appreciates my "platform". The catalyst to writing the novels was the realization that if I died, I would take all my amazing experiences in these real cases with me; and believe me few have lived 5 lives in one. It would "silence the voices" of the victim/survivors whose triumphs are written into these novels. The suspense series was written in part with the collaboration of police woman and sex crime expert Trula Ann Godwin. In addition to the novels, I have written as a ghost writer for a World War II veteran who fought in the South Pacific aboard the USS Maryland in all the major battles. I have also written a non-fiction book recording oral history stories of my family members beginning with the 1930's to present. There are sixty-six "legacy" stories with pictures. It was recently published as a private printing for family and close associates only. I am a published photo journalist having won the 2009 Editor's Choice Award for internet freelance news articles and pictures of the Cedar Rapid's Iowa flood victim accounts and their personal struggles.. My husband and I are in our 52nd year together (only one blip on the marital radar together), and we have adopted three greyhounds; Dex, Big Buddy and Baby Doll. These were the inspirations in the Greyhound Lady Walking suspense series We have eleven grandchildren, 7 grandsons and 4 granddaughters. My three children live in Iowa, Wisconsin and Ohio.
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