WISCONSIN BORN, WISCONSIN BRED, AND SOON TO BE, WISCONSIN WED.
Steven Hensler is a “MAN FOR ALL SEASONS”. He is known to be decisive, have well established boundaries, and a well defined life. BUT, when it came time to choose a Best Man for his wedding, he was totally and un-characteristically stymied. With the diversity of his experiences and years of friends from childhood to adulthood, and with 3 brothers and a brother-in-law to be, he had a true challenge to “just pick one.”
While he is definitely a “man’s man” he has a tender spirit when it comes to friendship. He has always valued loyalty and friendship highly and credits his friends with seeing him through the good, bad, and ugly that life can throw at you. He would say that “Friendship defines those who have your back.” He had narrowed it to 7.
The groom enjoys “Mudding” with a four wheeler in his Wisconsin surroundings, but he is just as comfortable in his suit and tie attire when called for in previous work and church experiences. In fact as an EMT he is readying for his next big step after the wedding when he continues his pursuit to become a Paramedic.
It was a result of his struggles to narrow the nominees down to 7 candidates, that he came up with the idea to hold a weekend “OLYMPIC TRIAL” with the winner being the Best Man. As a Wisconsin “born and bred” man, Hensler was all about the outdoors and having the competition encompass water, and land challenges. He is always safety conscious so he was able to put in place all the safety designations while holding activities in the lake and on the farm for the shooting events. There was of long list of activities to be tallied, and all 7 were competitive.
Beach Frisbee, and “Corn Hole” games at the farm were hotly contested and the target games shooting as well. But possibly no where as in the competition of the Skeet shooters. With 12 gauges blasting it was son # 2 who took the win on this competition.
At the farm following the shooting competitions, and other challenges, they ate, partied, and finally tallied the scores.
Of all the contestants, the 3 brother’s scored the highest, and the older brother won. He would say he won “handily”. There was so much fun in just the doing of the games, the camaraderie, and the sharing of old memories and teasing about all their youthful adventures.
The “Brotherhood” showed the Groom THEY HAD HIS BACK choosing the Best Man.
Unbeknownst to the groom, the 3 brothers got together and donated all of their points to his best friend from childhood. Actually he had placed Last in the points. It was a poignant moment I am certain, for the brothers to be the supportive friends they have always been to the groom. And they showed their recognition of the importance of his first childhood friendship. It also gave a well-deserved recognition to the person who had first be-friended their brother and earned their respect. It was their way of showing he “deserved” to be Best Man by unanimous acclamation.
The oldest brother, and actual winner, did however barter a trade for the points he gave. In exchange he reserved the right to be in charge of the Bachelor Party, and everyone was happy with their outcome.
The groom and all associated with the “Best Man Olympic Trials” would tell you that no matter the motivation, the idea is solid. It was a time of remembering when they “played together” and bonding again as men ,while seeing their friend and brother, into the “Rite of Passage” of marriage. No doubt there was a lot of advice shared, lies told, and laughs enjoyed. And it was a great way to become acquainted with the new brother-in-law coming into the family and him seeing the brothers in their most “natural state.”
Without a doubt, one of the best parts of winning Best Man was the Winning Trophy of the custom belt buckle: The inscription reads (German) for Best Man ; Hensler wedding 2016.
And not lost in all of this, is the humor the groom and his bride have and express as they make choices about their wedding. This could not be more evident than the choice of their wedding announcement. Below, the pertinent information was blocked out by this author who took the opportunity to modify it and give them a little “tease”. By adding green commentary areas with her own critique, she could have a little fun at the expense of the couple. That’s what “grandmas do”. And yes, the bride really did hang him up and “bag him.”
Speaking of the bride, a small gallery of their pictures can be seen below.
DEFINITELY A “WOMAN FOR ALL SEASONS.”
Whether it is “mudding”, water sports, ball games, running in races together and apart, or skiing, they are up for it; together.
ON THE BEST ADVICE OF THE PARTICIPANTS OF THE OLYMPIC TRIALS FOR BEST MAN, CONSIDER THE IDEA OF AN OLYMPIC EVENT FOR YOUR WEDDING ACTIVITIES. IF NOT TO CHOOSE THE BEST MAN, IT IS A PERFECT TIME TO REUNITE FOR THAT LAST TIME OF BONDING AS A SINGLE MAN, READYING YOURSELF FOR THE NEW ROLE AS A MARRIED MAN AND FRIEND. ACTUALLY A TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY SUBSTITUTE FOR A BACHELOR’S PARTY WOULD WORK AS WELL.
To read about their unique engagement, go to the blog menu and click on or search: Fairy Wishes; Proof they really come true; Engaged in a Fairy Garden.
Best wishes to the Bride and Groom in their September wedding, and their life beyond.